The previous post I wrote looked back, a reflection for me
on how I came to be where I am, and an insight for you into why I decided to
move from lovely, comfortable Connecticut to Ghana.
This post will continue looking back, but less for my sake
as for yours. Writing a blog post has been on my to-do list for a while now,
but the post I’ve been intending to write will be the final part in this
trilogy. It will look forward to the next year of my life and my ideas for what
might be coming after. This post will aim to describe the previous two years of
my life and why these two years have produced a third. While it’s probably
unrealistic to expect anyone reading this, who hasn’t been to Ghana, to fully
grasp the tragedies and the triumphs, the idiosyncrasies and the monotonies, of
living in this country, I’m going to write this with a generous expectation of
a reader’s empathy.
My extended adventure in Ghana began two years and a couple
days ago. I met the rest of my training group in DC a couple days before we
flew to Ghana for a few days of training. I arrived last because my flight was
delayed. Remembering walking into the conference room in DC seems so unrelated
now than before. The people in that room, waiting for me to arrive, are not
anyone I know now. They were all remnants of each of our past lives, none of
whom I knew or know now. Since then, I’ve had glimpses of these former lives
but in most ways they aren’t the lives of the people I know and love.
It’s strange looking
back on those first couple days. I try to put myself in that Joe’s head and I
struggle. My first moment of clarity wasn’t until about a week in. The staging,
the trip to the airport, the layover in Frankfurt, the arrival in Ghana, the
police escort to the university were we stayed our first week, the training we
had there, and the trip to homestay. All of these things were a whirlwind of
introductions, fascination, and confusion, essentially suffocation of
revelation. I wouldn’t say I recovered from it anytime soon, but the moment of
clarity, the moment where I first remember my thoughts precisely was the first
day at homestay. Homestay was the base for our training: we lived with a
Ghanaian family in a village and learned how to live that life. It was crucial
for our integration and development as Peace Corps volunteers, but was, almost
without exception, the most, or one of the most, difficult parts of every PCV’s
service. It started with us being given away, as a bride might feel in a
culture of prearranged, traditional marriages. Except we’re being given to
these families who we have nothing in common with, who speak only some weird
Ghanaian language, and are going to impose their way of life on us. After we
were given away to our new families, we were taken back and showed the new homes
we’d have for rest of our lives (2 months.) Then they moved me into this tiny
room, put up the mosquito net over my bed with a rock as hammer, and left me.
Alone. In Ghana. I couldn’t leave because that would initiate another
overwhelming interaction with the strange creatures living outside. They
certainly weren’t members of the human race I’ve known so happily for the
previous 23 years. I had no idea even where or how to go pee, or if anyone was
going to feed me at any point, or if I was left to fend for myself. This is
when the guided missile of clarity was zeroing in. Impact was as sat down in my
chair.
What the fuck had I gotten myself into?
From there, it actually wasn’t so bad. I can say, proudly,
that, existentially, that was the lowest moment I had. Sure the next Sunday at
homestay, when I pooped my pants right before I had to go to church was pretty
bad, and when everything I tried to do at site failed miserably the first year,
it didn’t instill hope in me that the Peace Corps would be anything but a
‘learning experience.’ But that moment, the first day at homestay was the
bottom. I just wanted to go home to my parents and sit on my couch and have a
beer in absolute comfort and security.
But the good thing about hitting bottom, is there is nowhere
else to go but up. Up by fits and jerks, but up nonetheless. The rest of
training was alright. We fit in 120 hours of language training in the next four
weeks. Went north for technical training. Learned that it’s alright to throw
plastic out the window of a moving car but not banana peels. Learned all about
dwarves and how to feed them. We learned about all sorts of projects we could
do: beekeeping, village savings and loan, rabbit rearing, cashew etc. I quickly
forgot everything technical, but at the very least it was sensitized us towards
the possibilities and the challenges associated with village life.
After technical training in the north we returned to
homestay. I went back to Comfort Anim, my homestay mother. She was an imposing
figure. Large, loud, illiterate, she spoke a bit of Krobo, the language I was
learning, and would try to supplement my daily language classes by yelling at
me when I got home in Krobo. When I inevitably didn’t understand her, she would
get louder and angrier until I feigned
understanding and went and hid in my room. She also had this lovely habit of
waking me up at 4:30am for breakfast. The first time this happened I swore she
was an apparition or that I was dreaming and I remember letting her in to bring
me my food and then going back to bed after she left intending to wake up from
this nightmare.
But on the whole, homestay was a good experience. Living
with Comfort Anim was a great introduction to Ghana, to living with a family in
a village in Ghana, and the absolute terror and intimidation only big Ghanaian
women can instill. Once the end of training was near, my focus was turned
towards the great leap: going to our sites. We all visited our sites for a few
days earlier in training, but in my case, it did not instill me with
overwhelming confidence. The constant presence of massive spiders was
worrisome, and the few days we spent there did not give me an accurate
understanding of what my daily life would be like. The people there, my
counterpart and supervisor, were all nice enough, but the unknown and ambiguous
answers to most of my questions about “what do you want me to do here?” left me
with a feeling that I was standing on a cliff about to willingly jump into a
mass of swirling dark clouds with no real idea of how far below the ground was.
The end of training was somewhat anticlimactic. We had our
final weeks at homestay, swore in with the US ambassador, and then we were free
to go. Most of us went to the beach for a couple days before going off to site
as a last hurrah but the next step we had to take was in the back of all of our
minds.